Imagine you've just learned about an awkward issue that is now your reality. You don't completely understand or like it but you know that it is true. You don't want to live your life slipping from cover to cover as if you were a spy living a double life. You just want to be yourself and move forward in getting to know the changes.
What do I want? I want to freely talk about it without worrying about other people's reactions. I want to face my truth and understand it more consciously. I want to move forward and learn more rather than allow doubt or fear to prevent me from being myself.
When you have an idea of what you want, it's up to you to set your stage. There is no way of predicting what reactions you will meet but you do have an idea of what would make you uncomfortable. Make time to understand your fears and how you will respond to them in accordance to what you want. Stick to the attitude that serves your desires.
When I was a teenager living with epilepsy, I wanted to talk about epilepsy openly and maintain panic during recovery time. I was aware that epilepsy wasn't a widely known disease and that a stranger would get scared witnessing it. I knew that I had to be ready to answer questions and create a calm stage for myself. If people are easily scared then an example of calm and collected would show them that it isn’t something to panic over. If epilepsy is an unusual issue, then a person willing to talk about it and honestly be uncovered could help make the issue more comfortable and open the door for awareness.
The issues we deal with are not always within what we know. We have the agency to work with it to meet our needs. It’s our responsibility to chisel the path we desire. Working with what we receive, we make the arrangements to reset our stage.
