Sharing is a Way of Learning
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Have you ever felt pain and kept it to yourself so you wouldn’t appear weak? Did you notice how concentrating on covering the pain led you to feel the pain more intensely? What would’ve happened if you released that pain?
In my youth, I had many painful experiences, and I did my best to not draw attention to what I didn’t want to handle. Though I did my best to not concentrate on the pain at the time, the experience left an impression on my mind that I recently discovered in my healing. In healing, small pains arose and triggered past experiences. I decided to take a different approach and move toward acceptance. I started communicating the pain I felt out loud to another person. I noticed that when I shared it my mind concentrated on releasing the story instead of focusing on the pain and the pain dispersed with the story. This made me compare where the concentration of my mind is when I’m worrying about pain and when I’m sharing to let it go. If I allow my mind to follow the subconscious patterns of my past, I risk trapping the pain within me. If I choose to be as I am with the intention to let it pass, the situation flows without me holding on to what may not be.
In my journey, I’ve learned that sharing is a way of learning. The re-telling of a situation lets you re-experience it from your present self without the same concerns of the past self and opens the perspective to understand from an academic viewpoint. To feel what we felt is to face what doesn’t need to be held and to view differently is to grow while letting go. We all have the right to feel whatever we feel in the moment and there will be times when what we learn is held onto until we’re ready for it. Every experience is valuable nourishment for our growth.
