Don’t Plant Your Fear in Others

I woke up one morning and knew it was time to follow my dreams. In the past, I would’ve been laying out my plans and getting impatient when plans were going slowly or not as I imagined. Normally these were the moments when the whispers of people not believing that I could succeed with my circumstances would drive me into a panic that made me act impatiently. This time around, I’m remembering that I don’t have full control and that plans not going my way are for learning. I sense that my dream isn’t ripe and that delays will give me time to make the necessary transitions for a solid foundation.  

In the past, I was listening to what I was told and I didn’t believe myself worthy of success because I was waiting for the screw-ups I was taught to avoid. My definition of success was not my own, I was limited by my caregivers’ attempts to prevent me from facing hurt. Today, success is enjoying the experience and growing from the situation. Sure, I’d love to earn an income and spread my message throughout the world but without meeting enjoyment and growth in adverse ways, I wouldn’t feel successful. Being more aware of who I am and loving myself as I am, I’m not desperate for the success I used to believe in and I’m more willing to flow with Life. 

I know that people mean well in trying to protect the people they care about from failure or pain, but they don’t realize the seeds they plant when projecting fear. I was scolded for being impatient but they didn’t know that it was what sprouted from fearful panic when I tried to avoid what I was warned against. As caregivers, we can’t predict situations for another person and we can’t prevent them from what we experienced. If they’re meant to grow from it, they will go through it one way or another and that is Life nurturing their potential.  

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